Before I Say I Do, Life Lessons From A Single Girl On Marriage And Why A Secondhand Ring Is A Thing

If you hit a “particular” age group, tell me what your social media feed looks like? For me, I’ve recently been scrolling through marriage proposals, wedding pictures and soon to be parents. A time where friends are transitioning to another moment in life and that’s a beautiful thing but not my thing. Everyone’s path in life is different and I’ve discovered that fast. As a kid a would predict at what age I would accomplish a certain ” life goal.” My thoughts would go wild… at this age this, at that age that and so on.

No, I’ve never been married, yes, I’ve been in love (many times) before. Yes, I’ve been with the wrong and right guys and yes, I am single. Hence, I’ve gone through heartache, happy times, good dates, dumped, and all the dating scene in-betweens. I can tell you, I’m pretty sure I’ve experienced a lot of the good and bad in the dating world. If I haven’t, my girlfriends definitely have. With that, there are lessons I’ve cultivated along the way and I’ve come out the other end stronger and more confident in my path.

So before I Say I Do (if that should ever happen, it may not) I’ve discovered a few life lessons that may shed some light on my life and possibly others in the same boat.

Marriage And The Single Girl

Live Happily Ever…Single

I’ve been asked all the above and more…will you get married? Are you dating? Do you want kids? Let me be clear to the outside looking in, ladies and gents… I am perfectly fine being single and you should be too. I do enjoy “love” and if you find someone you feel you are meant to be with that’s awesome. On the other hand, I firmly believe marriage is not for everyone. I don’t know if I will get married, to be honest, I’m not 100% sure I even want to. Beyond that, the idea of kids is far off my radar that I also don’t know if that’s in the cards for me.

I know what you’re thinking or at least what you’ve been told if you can relate. Oh, it’s because you’re young you will change your mind later. No, you don’t know that. If my mind does change cool, it means I’m moving to a different moment in life but what if it doesn’t?

I’ve lived and traveled enough to know that I love to date. Furthermore, I also love being single, with people, free and sharing my love. I’ve told myself (and others) that I’m living life, taking care of what I need, exploring, creating a life I am happy of and doing me. Now if I find “Mr. Right” along the way cool but if he’s stuck in that tree everyone jokes about well, then sorry, I don’t have time for that either. Find your happiness alone, in your heart and soul. It’s ok to be single, some people who get married really shouldn’t. Don’t feel pressured by any means to be with someone or have a family because you think it’s “the next step.”

Stay True To Your Path

That leads me to the second lesson, it’s perfectly fine not to know if you want marriage and a family. In retrospect, it’s also wonderful if you feel it’s your time.  There’s no timeframe. You are not broken or wrong if you desire something different than what your family, friends or society is doing. At the end of the day, it’s you. Your heart, your soul, your being and you must stay true to whatever that path may be. Someone’s not less or more of a feminist if they want or do not want to be married and have kids. I’m also not less of a woman if I decide to never have children either.

I’ve had people tell me you don’t know what real love is until you have kids. Again, no one can measure that. How do you know I don’t treat my dog better or have more love for him than some parents have for their child? Staying true to your path is the most important thing you can give yourself. It will allow you to feel full in your mind body and soul. Believe me, I’m still working on my path but I know that it’s truly mine. Whatever may come or not in my life I know that it’s meant to. So, if you want to be single do it. If you want to have a family then go out there but do things on your terms.

Delgatto, I Do Now I Don’t

A Secondhand Ring Is A Thing

As I’ve explored and lived my cruelty-free life I’ve discovered that being ethical falls on all parts of my everyday choices. From being happily single to staying true to my path in life. I see friends beginning to get married and I’ve thought about sustainable ways to make a wedding more intimate and unique. No, it’s not against the law to think, hey that may be a cool idea to incorporate into a wedding IF I do get married. Continuing to stay true to myself, you all know I have the love for secondhand but have you heard of a secondhand wedding ring?

No worries if you haven’t, I really didn’t either much less think of incorporating it into a marriage. Delgatto, I Do Now I Don’t is the leading buyer of diamonds, jewelry, and watches from the public. This means sustainable jewelry in your hands without the guilt. Personally, I think this is beautiful. If you do decide to say “I Do”there are environmental consequences of diamonds and precious metal mining.  Did you know over 150 million carats of diamonds are extracted from the earth each year?

Also, it requires one ton of earth to be moved to source the equivalent of every one carat stone. This massive environmental disruption causes soil erosion, deforestation, and ultimately the collapse of entire ecosystems. – Delgatto, I Do Now I Don’t

Some people may think a secondhand diamond is not romantic. Well, for me, whats not romantic is that fact that people, animals, and the environment suffer in some shape or form for a new ring.

I Do Now I Don’t… And That’s Ok

Whether you are single, a paw mom, married or have kids it’s important to stay true to what feels right. Not everyone was made to be single just like not everyone was made to have a family. Also, the way you decide to live your life should be with love. Love for yourself and then spreading that love to whatever you touch. For me, that is nurturing my calling to live a cruelty-free life and yes, supporting sustainable secondhand jewelry like Delgatto, I Do Now I Don’t fall into that aspect. Hey, who says you can’t buy a ring for your single self, right? I do it!

Now, no matter where my life ends up, I know I will be great. You know why because what matters to me is using my talents and abilities to lead a life full of love towards animals, humans and the environment. Be proud of what you ARE and what you are NOT, it’s what makes the world a colorful place.

To learn more about secondhand diamonds and jewelry from Delgatto, I Do Now I Don’t click here.

Live Balanced. Live Great.
All There August

Jessica Salazar

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